June it is!
Well, it sure has been awhile since I posted here. Steve and I have finally sold the farm and started living full time in our motorhome. It has been a long time coming, but here we are. We spent a couple of weeks enjoying a lovely spot at the Kansas Pomona Lake State Park. However, I learned a valuable lesson while trying to use my own phone as a hotspot to access internet. "Oh, that should be no problem. Just plug it in and you won't use your data at all." Well, that was what our AT&T rep said to me. But I learned very quickly that she was not correct. I should NOT DO THAT! I ate up all our data time in just about one day. The days of staying online all day long are now over for me. So that is my excuse for not writing sooner (as I would often write in a letter to an old friend). And yes, I am looking for an unlimited data plan for 5 users.
Now that Steve and I have moved to a commercial RV park in Topeka for a few days, I have full access to the internet. Well.... that is not quite true. I have to share it with the other 50 RVs in the same park. So I either have to be patient while waiting for my internet to engage, or get up at 2:00 in the morning so that I don't have to share. I'm not keen to participate in either. But now that I have a few moments of internet bliss... I'm writing.
What brings Steve and me in to the big city and a commercial RV park, is the upcoming wedding for my nephew, Isaac. He is going to be married tomorrow. We only have a few customs at our family weddings. I am chosen to give the family toast to the bride. (Perhaps it is more correctly stated that I have assumed that role now that my parents have passed.). We have a long history of strong women, so I get to tell the bride and her family all about this and assume that she too is a strong woman, and we welcome her. Or some such toast along those lines. Then I launch into my mother's favorite toast:
"Here's to those who wish us well."
"All the rest can go to Hell."
She claimed she was taught that in Scotland. I have my doubts...
So of course when I started looking for a topic for today's Diaspora, I decided it would be a bit timely to talk about Scottish wedding customs during the traditional month of June brides. So here we go! (J. Drew McFarland - pay attention for your beautiful little girls.)
From the Visit Scotland website, there are some nice customs listed and discussed! https://www.visitscotland.com/about/scottish-weddings/traditions/
- The bride should step out her own door with her right foot on the day of the wedding.
- A sixpence in the bride's shoe is the custom from Aberdeenshire and Angus.
- A sprig of white heather in the bride's bouquet is a bit of good luck if you are from the Scottish Borders
- As the bride steps into the coach on her way to her wedding, her father throws a handful of coins out the window. This is known as the "wedding scramble." Children then scramble to pick up the coins. In Ayrshire, this is called the "Warsel."
- The bride has an older married woman wash her feet. This is the custom in Fife, Dundee and Angus. But note that in Fife, the young groom goes through a similar custom. But for the bridegroom, he sits in a tub of water while his legs are coated with grease, ash and soot. (Nothing is included with this note from Visit Scotland. No explanation for this tradition. Not sure how this is related to getting hitched.)
For the actual wedding and reception (Here, I will just copy and paste):
"Gretna Green Famous Blacksmiths Shop is where couples have been coming to tie the knot since 1754. Are you feeling rebellious? Follow in the footsteps of the countless runaway lovers who, lured by Scotland’s lenient marriage laws, eloped to the sleepy town of Gretna Green on the Anglo-Scots border. Say your vows over the original anvil used by the ‘Blacksmith Priest’ when presiding over clandestine unions."
"The Wedding Walk is the formal march taken by the wedding party to the church. Preceded by a piper or fiddler, the bridegroom leads the maid of honour while the bride walks behind with the best man. After the ceremony, the newlyweds leave the church followed by the best man escorted by the maid of honour. To secure good luck it was traditionally thought that the wedding procession should cross running water twice."
"A Penny Wedding is an ideal solution for those after a traditional yet budget-friendly wedding. Guests bring their own food and drinks to the reception allowing the couple to splurge on the wedding cake."
"The Scottish Quaich or ‘Loving Cup’ is a two-handled silver bowl which is topped up with whisky, usually by the bride, and then passed around for the wedding party to sip once the legal proceedings have been concluded."
I suggest visiting the website if you want to know more. But the customs are very interesting. And to my nephew and his beloved, Lisa - I wish them all the best!
(Just tried to find a good Scottish toast to use instead of my usual "strong women" one. Found the one below, but I will not be smashing the glass. I will, however, think about one leg up and one leg down. I will be in my best black floor-length formal with my Navy miniature medals on my red bolero jacket and my MacFarlane sash. Seems appropriate!)
Theatrical Scottish Toast :
Delivered while standing on a chair with one foot on the table. After the toast is given, the drink should be downed in one and the glass smashed.
Here's tae us;
Who's like us?
And they're a' deid!